I had to let my big boy Chaucer go to that place that cat's go once you set their soul's free. The reasons why I'll share in a later blog so maybe his death will help someone else's cat live, but for now I'm dealing with his grand absence from the home I share with my husband and our other cat Caleb. Lot's of people have been supportive during this time and I just can't thank them enough; but there are those who just don't have any idea of how to be supportive to someone who is grieving. I realize death is an awkward subject and one we try to avoid at all costs, but I found a wonderful link for those who don't know what to say to someone who has suffered a loss:
http://grief.com/helpful-tips/the-10-best-and-worst-things-to-say-to-someone-in-grief/
In the few days following a death it becomes apparent who is good for you and who is bad. You have the opportunity right now to find out if you are one of the toxic individuals who is doing more harm than good and learn how to be one of those that actually aids in another person's healing. If you should mean no harm, but offer condolences that aren't received well, forgive the person in mourning, but look within to see how you could have said that differently. As we grow older, loss is a part of the scene so its important to learn from your mistakes so each time you'll get better at facing such things. To go through life never learning and always hurting someone isn't much of an existence; so I beg you to check out the link.
Love and Light,
Morgen
